Tale Finder

Tale Finder

These short summaries offer you an alternative route for finding your way to any particular one of the tales that are paired with the Rememberings and Celebrations cards.

Use it as an alternate way to explore the depths, unfoldings and lessons tied to the cards. 


Our First Responsibility (o1) - turning our well-acculturated sensitivities and sense of responsibility for the caretaking of others toward our very own selves.

Giving That Depletes You (c7) - finding permission to give to our own selves the exquisite devotional caring we all too often give away to others (who also need to learn to give this kind of caring to
their own selves).

Loving Your Self-Unconditionally (b1) - accepting that the dismantling of self-hatred is always an inside job and then devoting our selves to a daily practice of compassionately, unconditionally 
and fiercely re-mothering our selves.

Love Your Self as You Are Now (j2) - developing the practice of loving, cherishing, acknowledging and honoring our selves just exactly as we are right now.

Feeling Not Safe (r5) - valuing our inner timetables enough not to move forward with anything (however inviting) for which we don't yet feel ready or safe enough.

Feeling Frightened (c4) - becoming more gentle, loving and generous with our frightened selves, especially when it appears "there's nothing to be afraid of."

Accepting Who You Are (o5) - discovering that as we come to value our own ways of being, no one else has much trouble with these ways.

Being with Your Self (b6) - valuing the riches and rewards of learning how to enjoy being with our very own selves.

Too Much Work (j4) - recognizing when something we're engaged in is no longer (or not from the get-go) nourishing or enlivening to us; finding permission to stop or not to start engaging in these processes that feel like "too much work."

Not Berating Your Self (c12) - opening our hearts to embrace our less than perfect selves with generosity and compassion, knowing that this is what will grow us, open us to deeper knowing 
and help us to heal our woundedness.

Feeling Confused (r4) - reminding our confused/doubting selves to stop doing, thinking, talking, figuring; remembering, instead, to take breaks, to make time to be still, to listen inward for 
the knowing in our belly feelings.

Making Room for Feelings (e6) - committing our selves to making room to safely feel all of our feelings, no matter how "extreme, unreasonable, immature, not like our selves" we or others may think they are.

Letting Go of Goals (j5) - framing more broad open-ended intentions (instead of specific goals, affirmations, visualizations) as a way of honoring that we may not yet know what's really right for the who-we-are-becoming.

Celebrating Our Selves (b3) - honoring the courage it takes to risk living in the middle of our healing journey – learning to love, accept, know and enjoy our inmost selves – in a world that does not support or value this choice.

Not Pushing Our Selves (e5) - honoring the vulnerable parts of our selves by committing to listening to, comforting and providing for them whatever they need in order feel safe to move forward when they're fearful.

Our Slowest Parts (e3) - choosing to listen to the quieter voice deep within that asks for us to go only as fast as the slowest part of us feels safe to go – so that we may be more gentle and cherishing of our tender selves.

Be Gentle with Your Self (c1) - choosing to become curious witness-observers exploring the intricacies of our own ways of being, feeling and doing allows us to become more gentle and generous 
toward our selves.

Beginnings and Endings (b4) - acknowledging that beginnings inevitably involve endings, we come to understand, to honor and to embrace the intertwining of grief and joy that we experience at such thresholds.

Feeling Not Ready (e9) - giving our selves permission to let opportunities pass when their timing feels wrong for us, knowing that Spirit will continue to send us more/better opportunities until one that feels just right shows up.

Criticizing Your Self (c5) - learning how to cope with and to heal the harsh inner critical voices; understanding how they've come to be so powerful.

Being Too Much (o7) - not shaving off parts of our selves to become the person we think that others will like or accept.

Judging Difference (o4) - becoming more spacious and generous with our selves and others around differences; learning that difference need not be directional (e.g., good/bad, more than/ less than).

Judging Someone Else (c2) - recognizing that what we judge in someone else is most often something we have disowned in our selves; using such times as opportunities to acknowledge/embrace those disowned parts of our self.

Doing Better (o3) - accepting that we are always doing the best we can with the consciousness available to us in this moment and celebrating the baby steps along the way of our unfolding.

Loving Acceptance (c8) - understanding that the loving acceptance we so desperately seek from others can come only from our very own selves.

The Power of Vulnerability (b2) - claiming and honoring our vulnerable, emotionally responsive, relational natures even as the patriarchal white male paradigm encourages us to devalue and disown these sources of our deepest empowerment.

The Vulnerability of Power (b2) - practicing to hold our selves safely in the face of resentful responses to our acting from our empowered fullness in a world in which power is typically perceived as power-over, as limited in availability.

Procrastinating (e4) - recognizing that what looks like procrastination (to outside eyes) is usually a sign that either we're asking our selves to do something that's not right for us to do at all, or not right for us to do at this moment.

Growth is a Process (c6) - becoming more generous with the pace of our unfolding as we come to understand that growth is an ever-ongoing process, not an achievement or the reaching of Nirvana.

Applaud Your Self (b5) - honoring how much more richly we grow and flourish as we practice being kinder, gentler, more acknowledging and celebrating of our selves.

Speak Kindly to Your Self (e2) - committing our selves to the practice of speaking kindly and lovingly to our selves; trusting that change and growth flow more readily from tender nurture than from drill-sergeant criticism.

Safe for Feelings (o2) - giving our selves safe, open and accepting space for feeling all of our feelings.

Covers Over Our Heads (c3) - discovering the richness, comfort and nourishment in surrendering into feeling sorry for our selves and pulling the covers up over our heads.

Safe Space to Scream (s3) - learning to accept that angry feelings are a part of being human and finding safe ways to release them.

Owning Our Fears (o8) - claiming our right to our own fears: listening to them, taking them seriously, honoring them and taking good care of our selves in the middle of them.

Comforting Our Selves (c11) - recognizing that most often it is our own comforting for which we are yearning; then giving our selves permission to apply our exquisitely honed nurturing skills to our very own wounded selves.

Mistakes Are Opportunities (c9) - claiming mistakes as a normal, unavoidable part of the process of life that can offer us opportunities both to see more deeply into and to grow our selves.

Angry Feelings (s1) - recognizing that angry, nasty, mean-spirited feelings are signals that something "not good for us" is going on; listening inward to discover what that something might be and what we need to do about it.

Surrendering (s5) - honoring the active, empowered and empowering process of giving up the struggle of resisting what-is-so without forcing our selves to give up our feelings about what-is-so.

Feeling Unsafe (c10) - practicing becoming a consistent and fierce protector for our vulnerable selves, trusting that we must act from what is so for us in the moment, not from what is supposedly "really so."

Being Exactly Where You Are (e12) - giving our selves permission to be just where we are while we're there so that we can be fully present to these trying, challenging, difficult times and can learn what we need to from them.

Feeling Sad (e10) - honoring our right to claim all the time and space we need to make it safe to feel our "dark" feelings, to uncover the knowings, wisdom and truths in their depths.

Others' Views (e11) - recognizing the importance of listening to our own inner knowing place, even in the darkest times: a story of enmeshment and emergence from an emotionally abusive relationship.

Measuring Your Self (o9) - learning not to measure our selves against what others are doing or what the culture prescribes; coming to trust that our own process of unfolding is the right one for us.

When Others Criticize You (j1) - understanding that as we practice becoming fiercely protective, unconditionally loving mothers to our selves, our view of our selves becomes more independent of others' opinions of us.

Forgiving Before It's Time (s2) - finding permission not to push our selves into forgiving those who have abused or wounded us when such forgiving feels like it re-violates our tender, wounded selves.

Not Rushing (s6) - staying with our selves in the middle of (rather than rushing away from) difficult emotional processes, we dare to feel, release and organically come out the far side of those processes.

Reclaiming Rest (r2) - reclaiming rest as an urgent, meaningful, honorable, significant, enormously productive choice to create time/space for the richness of our inner lives to blossom.

Fallow Seasons (r6) - valuing the empowering and healing richness of intentional or serendipitous periods of still, empty, fallow time.

Rest is Sacred (r1) - opening to and valuing the magic and wonders of non-doing, empty time/space in which to nourish our body, mind and spirit.

Going 75 mph (s4) - learning to recognize and acknowledge even the smallest steps in our own growing process.

Cycles (e7) - reclaiming the natural cycles of ebb and flow, coming together and coming apart, expansiveness and withdrawal in our everyday lives.

Feeling Stuck (r7) - learning to lovingly, patiently and compassionately witness the old patterns we are repeating when we are not yet able to change them.

Change Moving Quickly (s7) - focusing on the thinnest-slice-of-now to keep our currently unprepared selves from feeling overwhelmed by visions of the changes that the who-we-are- becoming will be ready to meet.

Belly Feelings (o6) - understanding the importance of listening to our body and belly (gut) feelings; recognizing these as messages from our inner being's direct knowing.

Not-Knowing Times (e8) - acknowledging not-knowing times as important, empowering parts of the cycle of growing; holding our
selves gently and compassionately during these sometimes
 disquieting seasons.

Going More Slowly (e1) - giving our selves permission to move more slowly, care-fully and cautiously when we feel scared or anxious so that we may honor, protect and gently encourage our fearful selves.

When You're Tired (r3) - claiming the right to allow our selves to rest whenever we feel tired – regardless of whether we or anyone else believe either that there's "no reason to be tired" or that there's
"no time for rest."

Being Different (j3) - understanding and embracing our differentness as something valuable, honorable and empowering about our selves in a world that presses always to make us be "just like everyone else."